I remember the day I graduated high school. I was a trim size 6 and 11% body fat (nearly all of which was supported by my bra). I weighed 145 pounds and my doctor told me that with my 5’2″ frame I should weigh around 115. I had heard from various people who mattered to me that it was important to watch what I ate because my genes predisposed me to getting very large and they gently but consistently pushed me to stay thin so that I could stay healthy.
What no one saw was that I had wavered back and forth for two years already between anorexia and bulimia, trying to feel good about myself and get everyone to stop commenting so much on what I was eating. I would starve myself for months, and when someone started to notice I would start eating and taking pills and purging. I lived in this cycle for nearly twelve years. I was thin, but never healthy. Never.
And then, I wasn’t any more. I became overweight and unhealthy. And then obese and unhealthy. And then morbidly obese and unhealthy. On my 19th birthday I weighed 199 pounds. I remember looking at the scale in shock and crying. My best friend picked me up, told me I couldn’t be sad on my birthday, and took me out for a dinner filled with trans fat and empty calories to help soothe my sad heart. I had started to gain weight in response to a personal trauma that I tried to fix with comfort food. It didn’t work, but my body to this day carries the reminder of that trauma because it still carries that weight.
I have since had God gloriously deliver me from that trauma and heal my broken heart. I have been on a journey to heal my broken body so that my external self reflects my healthy, joy filled, whole internal self. When I became pregnant with our first child, I left my eating disorder in the past once and for all. But every now and again I have to check my mental responses to food and remind myself that it is not my master. Neither is a number on the scale or even a favorite pair of jeans. God is the only Lord of my life and I refuse to make food, weight, size, health, or fitness an idol ever again.
What does that mean for me? Well, I have stopped dieting. I eat a very healthy, whole food oriented menu that is satisfying and delicious. I spent more than five years reading and researching about food and body types and what was going to heal my body from the extreme damage done by a decade of disordered abuse. I finally found what was working and began to heal, but didn’t lose anything. I kept telling myself I would be content with a healthy body, even if it was morbidly obese. I struggled to be content, but I was determined not to associate health with size/weight.
And then a friend told me about this book called Trim Healthy Mama by Serene Allison and Pearl Barrett. I avoided reading it for six months because I was never going into the diet addiction phase again; to me, that was swapping one eating disorder for another. However, as I watched her family get healthier and healthier, I became curious enough to get a copy of the book. As I read through it, I realized how much it lined up with what I had studied for the last five years with one notable difference: by combining these healthy foods differently than I was, people could trim and heal their bodies. So I began to swap up how I combined my food and lost fifteen pounds in one month. I’m now down thirty pounds and have been stalled for a season on weight loss, even though I’m still shedding inches. And I feel great! But more importantly, I feel free. Being bound by food is no longer a part of who I am!
This month I am adding one more thing to my health journey: exercise. But a different kind. I am now a “T-Tapper!” T-Tapp was designed long before I ever started working out, but for some reason this was the first year I’d ever heard of it. Perfect for me with its 18 minute routine (hard to work out with six kiddos!), lack of pressure on my knees, and no weights (so I can do it anywhere I have the time), it’s pretty awesome. I’m working on learning the proper form for each move right now, and will be sharing my progress with you as I move forward. But I’ve seen people I know get great results on healing their bodies, and I want those same results.
UPDATE: a week after I wrote this post, I found out I was pregnant. I stuck with THM as much as possible, although I did transition to crossover meals since I didn’t want to worry about meal types; I just wanted to eat well for my baby. As for exercise, T-Tapp eliminated so much back pain this pregnancy and kept me in much better shape. I was able to exercise until I was put on bed rest at the start of my third trimester. Even after that, I occasionally did the Primary Back Stretch when I needed back relief. It has been a tremendous blessing to me and has helped in so many ways I didn’t anticipate. I’m an avid fan of the Body Workout Plus, the CRT Skin Tightening System (that alfalfa is AMAZING!), and now their Healthy Hormones workouts. They do help trim and tone my body, but they also help me sleep better, eat better, and feel better. T-Tapp has lowered my blood sugar levels (yay Hoe Downs!) and helped balance my hormones without supplements beyond the alfalfa. YAY FOR HEALTH!
Why am I doing this? Not because I need it for my self-esteem or for my husband to love me and find me attractive. Not because I have some inner compulsion. But because, as you can see in my photo, I have six (now seven!) precious children I want to have the energy to play with and keep up with. I want to show them what healthy living looks like and give them a foundation that they can build their futures on. It’s my God-given responsibility as their mother to disciple them – to teach them to steward the life God has given them body, soul, and spirit. This is part of it.
Why am I sharing all of this with you? Because I know there are other women who have been lied to and told that skinny is healthy. Maybe you’ve believed that self-deprivation is the only way you’ll really be beautiful, that starvation is the only way you can look gorgeous. Or maybe you eat because you can’t seem to help yourself and you feel like a failure every time you’re done. Or maybe you think about your next meal all day long, and miss being able to just live. Maybe you’ve never felt any of this, but you are overweight and feel like there is no hope. Let me tell, you sweet sister, there is always hope with God. He is able to heal you, inside and out. You are beautiful and lovely and worth loving EXACTLY the way you are. Stop hearing the lies. Please, if you’re on this journey, let me know! I’d love to pray for you and encourage you.
*the T-Tapp link is an affiliate link that blesses my family if you use it, so thanks!