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It Wasn’t Always That Way
The Lies We Are Being Told About Our Potential
What is the Truth?
I don’t think anyone “can have it all” pursuing society’s brand of success. There’s not a woman alive who can live up to Christian culture’s standards and not feel run down at the end of the day. Who can really give their best to all those things? And who wants to give less than their best to anything that really matters?
Did I waste my potential? Did I waste what others poured into me? That’s just poppycock.
Why do I feel guilty because I’ve walked away from that legalism and those pressures? Where is the grace soaked Gospel in that line of thought?
No more. No more condemnation. No more lies telling me that I am just a wife and a mom. There’s nothing just about it. It’s who I am, it’s what I do, it’s the life I lead … and it’s the fulfillment of a calling far greater than any I could have ever dreamed up for myself during my idealistic youth.
God’s intended purpose for His children is His best. Not the world’s best. Not their imagined best for themselves. His best. And we know that God’s ways are not our ways, nor does His ideal picture often look like our own. The world is no longer a perfect reflection of its Creator because it has been marred by sin.
However, God is restoring in the hearts His Beloved -the hearts of those who listen, those who seek, those who respond, those who crave, those who are desperate– God is restoring in them a true understanding of what His best is.
Did I Waste My Potential?
As a married woman with many beautiful children, His best for my life focuses on my relationship first with Him, then with my husband, and after that with our kids. Once I give them my total best, then everything else can be fit in. You need to prayerfully consider what that is for your life; we’re all uniquely created, gifted, and called. But we also have the Scriptures that speak universally to us.
For me, that means staying at home and lavishing our home and all who dwell within it with love, with grace, with peace, and with joy. It means spending time on the “little things” that make big differences. It means giving my all to these important relationships. Not with a feeling of wasting potential, but rather with a pervading sense of purpose, fulfillment, rightness.
Today I get to love my husband. I am honored to keep our home a place of peace and refuge to which he is happy to return after a hard day’s work. I get to make a wonderful dinner for our family. I get to do laundry. I get to snuggle with our children as we homeschool. This is where I am called to give my best. Every gift, every talent, every scrap of potential my Creator instilled in me is being used in a precious and valuable way. It’s not being wasted, even if it doesn’t mirror society’s best. After all, my home is my oyster and my family is a pearl of great worth!